Me2

With the “me too” going around social media, lots of emotions have been brought to the surface.  Many, that have been pushed down so far, for so long, and yet it seems just like yesterday.  My heart goes out to anyone that has experienced this.

I want you to consider, for just a moment, the feeling that this brings to you: humiliation, shame, fear, rejection, etc.  What is it that first comes to mind when you are again haunted by your past?  How does this make you feel inside?  What does this make you want to do?  You need to learn this feeling so when it sneaks up on you in the future you can identify it – and then dismiss it, as you no longer need to entertain it.

Some of us have found a way to heal.  Some have not.

For those that are still being hounded please consider this:

What would you tell your daughter, your mother, your friend?  Would you tell her that she needs to carry around this burden the rest of her life?  Would you tell her that she deserves a life different than her other friends who haven’t been abused?  Would you tell her that she should feel alone?  No.   You would take her by the hand and hold her.  You would tell her she is so full of love and kindness and her dreams are just waiting for her to come get them.  You would build her up – make her strong- and tell her she gets to choose the life she wants.  You would tell her she is worthy– worthy of love, a great life, peace.  You would tell her that it was not her fault, and from this very day not another minute will be lost.

The time has come for you to fight for your life.  To quit giving power to the perpetrator that stole moments from you, that has turned in to years and decades.  It’s time to reject the shame, guilt, and burden that you have been carrying in your heart for so long.  You are not your shame.  Shame has not earned a legitimate piece of you.

So, what do I know about you?  I know that you were born with greatness.  I know that you worthy of a life so abundant that your heart is full every single day.  I know that you can be strong enough to stand up to shame and deny it from stealing any more joy from your life.  I know that you deserve to be free.

On the other side of shame is strength.  It’s knowing to your core that you are loved, cared for, and needed to show up.  For yourself….for your family…for your friends.  We need you.  We need all of you – not just the pieces.

So, as you stick up your middle finger to those who have wronged you…open up your heart and choose healing.  Deny those that hurt you any more time.  Find the strength to let go.  To break away from the bonds that hold you back.  To be free.  And when you do, you’ll be able to breathe again.

Much love,

Kim♥