Grab Bag

Sometimes when things are too close you don’t know what you are grabbing.

The other day my honey was eating those delicious Dot’s Homestyle Pretzels – and he was hungry. One after another he was grabbing them. He didn’t have to think about it, he knew the bag was there and where to grab. Until he realized the dog treats bag was sitting next to the Dots Pretzels. That could have been bad, or maybe not that bad, he never grabbed from the wrong bag. He stopped himself before it happened.

The point of this is that when we are automated we don’t think about our next move and most of our moves are automated. You don’t have to think to walk, brush your teeth, or even think. Weird right? You don’t have to think about thinking. What?? You don‘t have to think about thinking?? It just happens. Things just come up. Some of them are really good – like, “Damn, I look good today.” Most of the time this is a good thing. It would take way too much energy to think about every single movement we make.

Some of these automated thoughts aren’t so good. These are the ones you need to pay attention to. These are the ones that come up when you are scared, insecure, lonely. These are the ones that come up when you are being challenged. These are the ones you don’t want to grab at. So what are these thoughts? These are thoughts like:

“I can’t do this”

“What if I fail?”

“I don’t matter.”

“I’ll let them down.”

Guys, thoughts like these are natural. Your brain is just trying to protect you – keep you safe from embarrassment (for example). But if you want to get better at something… do anything that will make a difference…if you want to grow – you need to face these thoughts. You need to know if they are there and if they are holding you back. Then you need to decide to grab into the other bag of thoughts and find one that will encourage you. One that will inspire you to face your fears. One that will give you just 10 seconds past where you are right now so you can keep moving forward. This bag may have thoughts like:

“I can do this!”

“I’m not alone.”

“I will try!”

“I’m scared but I’d rather try than not know.”

You can work up to thoughts like:

“I’m going to kick a$$!!”

“Nothing is going to stop me.”

“No matter what – It’ll be ok.”

You are the manager in charge. You decide what works for you. You know how you feel when you think these thoughts. You know what motivates you and you know what shuts you down. In a sense, you get paid to run yourself.



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